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Self-Sabotage is really a family dispute. The “family” I’m speaking of, however, is so intimate with us as to be practically invisible.

I’m speaking of the “three Selves” that make up our so-called individuality . . . and how they may sometimes disagree.

For most of us, knowing about these selves is crucial.   This knowledge can  unlock the secret to getting congruent – both inside and out – so that you can attract whatever you want into your life.  Without congruence, our failures and self-sabotage will persist and bear more fruit.

Ceylon Yaka Masks

Ceylon Yaka Masks

The Search for Kahuna Magic

Max Freedom Long discovered these “selves” during his search for the stories about how the Kahunas – or original Hawaiian shamans – performed their miracles.  In his study of the ancient Polynesian language, he came across words that told these stories about how the shamans could walk on burning hot lava, heal the sick, and control inner bodily functions.

Many of these so-called miracles have today become commonplace.  In the 1980’s, Tony Robbins became one of the first few westerners to teach fire walking and demonstrate other aspects of our subconscious power to large numbers of people.  Today, we have simply to turn on the Discovery Channel to catch the latest exploits of another miracle-worker or urban shaman.

The underlying principles of these miracles have not changed. To be congruent and powerful, you must have a laser-like focus and connection between the conscious and subconscious minds. These aspects – what we consider as “mind” in the west – have a much deeper and richer story in much of Asia, and in the Hawaiian Huna, or “secret.”

Max Freedom Long was the re-discoverer of the Huna in the 1930’s and author of many books on the subject.  He based much of his research on the 1865 edition of “A Dictionary of the Hawaiian Language” by Lorrin Andrews, where the word “Huna” means:

“To hide or conceal; to keep from the sight or knowledge of another. To conceal, as knowledge or wisdom.  That which is concealed (in conversation or writing this definition is expressed as ‘ka huna.’)” [i]

The “Ka-Hunas” (Kahunas) kept this secret in order to preserve the knowledge of real power from being diluted or destroyed by western explorers and missionaries.  Long was able to re-construct much of this knowledge by studying the language of the ancient Polynesians, and deciphering the hidden meanings.

Long found, for example, words in the native language that described in detail the “three selves” and other phenomenon he described as the “three kinds of vital force” and even “complexes” as we know them in modern psychology.  According to Long, the Kahunas had a name for each of these three selves:

  • Low Self (Unihipili, Ku or Subconscious)
  • Middle Self (Uhane or Conscious Mind), and
  • High Self (Aumakua, Spirit or God)

The Low Self

This selfalso called Unihipili - was, according to Long, made of Polynesian root words for “spirit” “grasshopper” and “leg and arm bones.”   In digging further, he discovered that these terms were descriptive metaphors for certain “powers” exhibited by this self.

Among them, Long described the ability of the Low Self

  • to know itself as a separate and conscious spirit,
  • provide life force, or “mana” to all three selves, and
  • to become subject to hypnotic suggestions and commands from the middle self or conscious mind.

According to Long, the Low Self or Ku also ruled

  • the body (except for the voluntary muscles),
  • the emotions,
  • the memory,
  • all sensory impressions
  • all telepathic and psychic abilities.

In fact, so much of the body and the emotions and the memory was tied up in this being that the Kahunas considered it the guardian of Mana (or “life force”).  This Mana was shared with the Middle Self (conscious mind) which converted it into will or intent.

The Low Self also had the unique ability to contact the High Self through “prayer.” The middle self or conscious mind is unable to do this – only make suggestions to the low self.  For example, if a prayer is contrary to a previously-establish command by the middle self (e.g., childhood hidden decision), then the prayer would not be sent or heard.

The Low Self is so powerful that I originally called it “The One Who Makes Things Happen” before I discovered Long’s books.  This self, “inner child,” Ku, or Unihipli, is the one we communicate with through muscle testing.

The Middle Self

This entity is what we normally considered as our “self” or ego.  According to the Kahuna, however, this same self is practically powerless without its servant, the Ku. The middle self was labeled by the Kahunas as Uhane, or “the spirit which talks.”

Besides the ability to form words and speak, the middle self also has the ability to rationalize, solve puzzles, think logically, and – most importantly of all – make decisions. This ability above all others makes the Uhane the captain of this ship we call “our life,” and guide to its destiny.

The limitations of the middle self, however, are many.  It cannot get input from its surroundings, remember anything, or feel anything without the help of the low self.  By itself it is a ghost, a wandering apparition, with no memory of its past or knowledge of its environment.

The middle self also lacks the ability to pray for what it wants. All it can do is make a request of the low self who then transmits this as a “prayer” to the High Self to “rain down benefits.”

The High Self

Aumakua means in Polynesian “utterly trustworthy parental spirit.” It is equivalent in meaning to the Judeo-Christian “Father in Heaven” and “Great Spirit” of the Native Americans.  To the Kahunas it is the ultimate creator of all things in Heaven and Earth.

The High Self manifests all things, seen and unseen, on earth and in the cosmos.  The middle self, however, has no direct contact with this Being.  It must go through the low self to accomplish this.  Only the low self can extend it’s “aka cord” or ectoplasmic thought substance to the High Self in the form of a prayer.

According to Long:

If the three selves are working normally and freely together, the low self – at the request of the middle self – can at any time call up the High Self by way of the aka cord and give it a message. [ii]

Long’s “prayer” therefore becomes a dance between the three selves, to the benefit of all.  Nothing happens unless all three are in harmony – together!

How The Magic Was Lost

Freud and modern psychology have given us the knowledge of three divisions of consciousness, i.e., the conscious, subconscious and superconscious. While this knowledge was light years ahead of anything we knew before, it still treats the three “selves” as parts of one consciousness we call the “individual” – or undivided being.

We have the Greeks and other western cultures to thank for this idea.  By elevating the individual as Hero, the Greeks, Romans and early church created an ignorance of human interconnectedness, and a kind of arrogance that said we could do things without any real inner guidance. This growing reliance on outward signs and prophesies forestalled our search for inner awareness and divine power.

In fact, before Freud we westerners could never conceptualize what the ancient Kahunas meant by “three selves.”   Kahuna references to “selves” sounded like mere idol worship to early Hawaiian Christian missionaries of the early 1800’s.

This was our loss.  The missionaries – and western society itself – had much to gain from the Kahunas. Instead, they burned all their materials and sacred objects from that time.

Long pointed out:

The idea of one supreme God was the Hebrew contribution to the world’s thought on this subject.  But in doing this masterly bit of reasoning, the reasoners accomplished for many branches of religion the wiping out of every level or form of consciousness between the middle self and Ultimate God, leaving a vast emptiness . . .[iii]

Ancient Hawaiian history was lost. The only resources Max Freedom Long could find were a few natives who were able to re-construct some folk stories, and the Polynesian language itself.  But re-construct he did, and we owe Mr. Long a huge debt of gratitude.

NEXT: Soul Logic and the Three Selves


[i] King, Serge Kahili, Huna and Hawaiians. Online article excerpt & edited.

[ii] Max Freedom Long, The Secret Science At Work (DeVorss & Co. Publishers, 1953 ed.), p.  84.

[iii] Ibid., page 85

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Oct
26

The Logic of Self-Sabotage

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What is the logic in self-sabotage . . . why would anyone want to block their own intent?

It happens – and usually for a very good reason.  But not for the reasons we think . . . because ” intent” can be both conscious and subconscious.

When I was a teenager, for example, I wanted to date girls.  You might say my conscious intent was to ask Suzie (not her real name) to a school dance.  When it was time to actually call her, however, I froze.  I just couldn’t do it!

If I actually overcome my sheer terror enough to dial Suzie’s number, I usually hung up immediately upon hearing her voice.  Or I sputtered, hemmed and hawed into the phone, or sighed heavily as I hung up again.

This went on for days.  Needless to say, Suzie was probably freaked and went to the dance with Football Jake, the biggest bodyguard she could find to protect her from this stalker!

Meanwhile I spent another boring night with my friend Dave, bemoaning the fact that neither one of us had any luck with girls.

Obvious self-sabotage: I wanted to date Suzie.  I then proceeded to do everything in my power NEVER to date Suzie!  What went wrong? And why??

The first thing to ponder is . . . is this self-sabotage really so bad?

From the point of few of a teenager, these mis-steps are ego-shattering at a critical time. As an adult looking back, however, this episode and others like it appear painfully funny.  Since almost every adult can identify with adolescent angst, they also know the lessons reveal themselves when the time and experience allows.

The adult me knows both views:  the memories of my teenage angst AND my adult view, with more knowledge and and experience.  I now know, for example:

  1. I was not emotionally prepared for a relationship (fear of rejection, low self-esteem, fear of the unknown, fear of sex, fear stemming from my grandmother’s warnings about sex and religion)
  2. I was not physically prepared for a relationship (raging hormones)
  3. I was not mentally prepare for a relationship (no knowledge of women or girls, did not understand the “rules”)

Whether or not I ever even had a chance with Suzie, I’ll never know. The fact is, however, I didn’t.  There was just too much “stuff” in my life that had other plans . . . my subconscious self was aiming me in a different direction.

If I actually did proceed to ask her out and didn’t sabotage the results,  I would surely have sabotaged the whole thing later anyway – when more damage would result.

Even as adults we have this inner “wind brake” – in the form of self-sabotage – that keeps us from creating bigger problems for ourselves down the road.   Based on our existing fears, resentments, and hidden decisions about ourselves and the world around us, we are often divided into at least two “selves” that have different motivations and even different values.

One problem is that – unlike being a teenager – we have reached adulthood and can’t really “grow out of it.”  The other problem is that until now there has been no alternate or effective way to address this gap effectively. So we continue to suffer the indignities of life speaking to us . . . and we being unable to listen!

In actuality, self-sabotage is the lack of congruence between the inner and outer selves. Once a connection is made – and motivation is aligned – then miracles can happen! Until then, inner emotional turmoil can even result in cancer and other diseases.

When it comes to health care issues especially, self-sabotage is apparent on both an individual as well as a societal level.  Visit www.erichamel.com/custom26.html for the story about how cancer is tied to emotional trauma . . . and also how breakthroughs in understanding this simple truth can also be thwarted.

Is there is a way to set the “inner wind brake” to a level that accepts more success with less sabotage?  I believe there is.  However, I also believe we must incorporate two things:

  1. Gain intimate knowledge of our inner “selves” that stop us, and
  2. Learn to access and communicate with them.

Because we are such complicated creatures, we may not be able – as a human being or society – to overcome self-sabotage completely.  I firmly believe, however, that greater self knowledge is our salvation.

Next: The Three Selves

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There IS such a thing as “too much of a good thing.”

Need power?  More money?  More love?  Then obviously MORE power-money-love is good, right?  Not necessarily. Our subconscious decisions often act like built-in brakes to our needs, desires, and ambition.

But why and how?

Let’s say you have your own small business and want to make more money.  You figure adding a new product line would be perfect . . . and a noble ambition give the state of our economy.  But for some reason, in spite of warnings from experts in your field, you focus on marketing a product you like but which is untested and lacks demand.

So despite hard work, long hours, and tens of thousands of dollars invested your product fails.  You lay off workers, scale back operations, and again focus on the product that first made you successful in order to pay off the backlog of debts.  Had you listened to the new product experts you might have avoided this, but you stubbornly refused to test before taking the plunge.

This is an obvious case of self-sabotage. But is it all bad?  Let’s see . . .

Take the example of wind power. Let’s say you build a wind generator on your land in Denmark to harness the powerful winds blowing off the North Sea every day.  So you build this huge contraption, but forget to add a tested wind brake to your structure.   This is a video of what actually happened:

Without a working wind brake, the whole structure collapses.  However, “logic and common sense” initially tells you that more power is needed, and that a brake will only make the propellers turn slower, generate less power, and create more inefficiency – like driving a car down the freeway with one foot on the accelerator and the other on the brake.

And most people – consciously at any rate – don’t want this.  Most of us like our speed, power, and the “freedom” we feel when restrictions are absent.

But the wind brake is essential to a large wind turbine.  You see, all a wind brake is the mechanism that adds drag to, or even stops, an out-of-control spinning wind generator.  Engineers and designers realized it is better to suffer some inefficiency than have the whole thing fall apart.  Once seen in this light, it makes sense.

Like that, we have a built-in subconsious “wind brake” that keeps us moving more slowly and heavier through life.

Next: The Inner Logic of Self-Sabotage. . .

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Michael testing Beate

Michael and Beate

 This morning – and every Tuesday morning - a small group of dedicated folks get together in a suburb of Atlanta to practice a technique I developed years ago called The Logical Soul(tm).  Although I’m not getting much financial reward out of theses meetings, I have an ulterior motive: to train them to work with, and teach this, to others.    

This original group of four all share a common desire to see this simple technique become available to everyone.  With the forthcoming publication of my book – The Logical Soul(tm): Eliminate Self Sabotage in 30 Minutes or Less for Success, Wealth, Love and Happiness – this is increasingly possible. 

Don Sherrill kindly agreed to handle the video duties of this first official Teacher Training Course, and the Donthree German ladies (the “Killer B’s” – Beate, Birgit and my wife Brigitte) help me stay focused and on point.  Each week we do sessions with one another and “peel the onion” to discover deeply-rooted hidden decisions that stop us at every level of concern. 

 

Ushi, Birgit & Brigitte

Ushi, Birgit & Brigitte

Today we welcomed Ushi – a friend of Beate’s from Germany who volunteered for a session and saw some immediate benefit.  The whole thing was caught on video (as was the entire teacher-training course) and will be available online for those who sign up for the Powerful Goals Program(tm), available starting in November.

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Michael with book and Jackie T.

Michael with book and Jackie T.

No more self-sabotage!!  The caus-de-celeb of my life – to eliminate this universal plague – has suddenly started to bear fruit! Yesterday I went to Apex Book Manufacturers to OK the final proof of my book.  It looks great!

I  then attended my umpteenth meeting of the Internet Marketers of Georgia (IMOG) last night, organized by Joey Smith (below with MC).  It was, as usual, a fantastic gathering of some of the most creative minds in the south.  I again met with Jackie Tulos (left) and her associates who are setting up my blog and running my social media program.

MC & Joey Smith

MC & Joey Smith

I even met and hired a consultant -  Tony Brown - to kick-start my membership sites so I could focus on teaching and writing.  And my Tuesday night blog radio program Logical Soul Talk is becoming the place to be for some of the biggest names in the business.  My health is great.  My finances are about to turn around.  My wife and I are deeply in love, and I have a cat and unicycle that tickle my fancy every day. What a world!

What occurred to me late last night was that suddenly my life is running on all cylinders for the first time since probably my mid-20′s (I’m 57)!  No joke – I’ve often preached about eliminating self-sabotage, and helped others do this, but for some reason success eluded me like the plague. My Seed of Failure was firmly entrenched and refused to go peacefully.

That changed last month when I had FINALLY had enough of struggles to take  a large dose of my own medicine.  I enlisted the help of my Logical Soul ™ teacher-training group, i.e., Brigitte, Beate, and Birgit (the Killer B’s), to work with me and get into some of my hidden decisions that were STOPPING me every day.

It worked like a charm.  And yet for some reason I’ve been amazed that something I discovered could actually change MY life as well as it could the lives of others.  My default setting was “Its great for others but not for me.”  I guess I had to train my own clones before I could allow that to happen…

The Logical Soul(tm) rocks!  Tomorrow (October 2nd) I will launch the latest version of my e-book for only a buck. Be sure to take advantage of this limited-time offer since I’ll probably pull this offer after about 3 weeks in preparation for the physical book launch!!

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Every set a goal, and then proceed not to reach it?

Sounds silly, but it happens all the time. In fact, its a wonder many of us achieve ANY goal we set out to accomplish. Self-sabotage comes in many forms: procrastination, fear, anxiety, jealousy, rage, and mostly just going unconsious to the world around us and inside us. We run the engine of our lives like a car crippled by dysfunction. On the one hand we give it all we’ve got – put the metal to the pedal with one foot – while slamming on the brakes with the other.

The result? A weakened vehicle and not much progress.

Powerful goals can only happen when we take our foot OFF the brake. Our inner resolve will then naturally reflect our outer results. If we are less than certain in any activity, it shows. If we hesitate for a split second before diving off the big board, we risk the belly flop.

Hidden decisions created long before we became adults constantly run our lives in ways we will never really understand. We only suffer the negative consequences.

I held a class called The Powerful Goals Program up until April of 2009, and witnessed how the simple act of aligning inner and outer realities can create an explosive power inside, and effortless accomplishments outside. Check out the introduction:

Enjoy! – M Craig

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They say that you never forget how to ride a bicycle.  I guess “they” can add “Unicycling” to that list of unforgetable skills, because this 56-year-old guy apparently didn’t. 

Unicycle rideThe last time I rode a unicycle was before 1970, about 40 years ago.  I hung up my wheel after years of being labeled a weirdo and show off.  Since I don’t have any need to avoid such labels these days, I figured I’d make a go of it once again, especially since mentor Raymond Aaron gave me permission by publicly stating he was one of us weirdos.     

But this whole unicycle thing was harder than I thought.  First, I had to buy a new one because my old 24-inch Lizzie had (almost) breathed its last tire-breath.  A 29-inch one-eyed road warrior is my new ticket to adventure, and I wanted to take her out for a spin right away.  I had already made an outrageous goal of riding five miles before June 1st, and the month was almost over. 

The first thing I experienced after sharing my goal with Soma of riding the unicycle cornerCherohala Skyway on a unicycle next year was calmness.  Having spent years using the Logical Soul technique to process through all my ”stuff” such as low self-esteem, fear, procrastination and other forms of self-sabotage, I felt really confident making such a bold declaration.  I know I can do it . . . and will! 

The first outing was unsensational, but rewarding.  Tuesday, May 19th I was able to keep my balance and tool on down the highway (in a local public park) with a minimum of spills.  One mile down, four to go.  So far so good. 

unicycle joyThe next day I did my second mile, although I started to feel my age on the uphill grades.  My wife Soma took these pics of me after a full day’s work on a a house renovation.  I slept well that night, despite some throbbing in the left knee. 

Two miles down, three to go…

I worked a full day on Friday, then came home and hopped on my unicycle in front of my house, just to ride to the corner of the block as I did the first day. 

Big mistake.  I immediately felt wobbly and crashed after only 200 feet downDown the Road the road, plowing my head into the asphalt.  It was REALLY good I had my helmet on . . . a blow like that would have sent me to the hospital for sure!

Needless to say, I didn’t continue the ride.  I figured out that a state of exhaustion where I can barely walk is not the best time to do a rolling balancing act!  Besides, I had quite a headache afterwards and decided to wimp out and head for the showers. I’ve got another week to log three more miles. 

Unicycle Sunset

 

I’ll be better prepared this weekend. 

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What makes us do things that we KNOW are irresponsible, counterproductive and just plain stupid?  What makes us do these things even during the process of thinking inside, “You know, this is reallystupid”??

I call it the “Default Setting” of human irrationality.  Duke University professor Dan Ariely, in his recent book Predictably Irrational, demonstrates how and why we are prompted to do things during certain times that we would never even think of during others.    He gives countless examples in the book – one major theme is that men and women who are aroused sexually make on-the-spot decisions about certain sex acts they would never consider otherwise.  

Other times, according to Ariely, we continue to present a mixed persona to the world around us, much the same way as Dr. Jekyl became Mr. Hyde, then tried to cover up the transformation as best he could.  An honest person, when presented with an option to make a lot of money, will often engage in (and try to hide) his or her actions even if it ends up hurting him or others.  If so, a quick justification usually solves the problem for the moment.  If the end result is that no one notices and the money comes, we are further prompted to continue the same activity, setting ourselves up for a lifelong habit – and eventual fall.  

Self-sabotage is the use of inner justification to engage in activities that hurt the one doing the action.  If I want to get a nice job and wear a clown mask to the interview, I could be labeled a career saboteur.  However, if I only did the interview to please my overbearing father and had no intention of working for this company,  the action takes on a different light. 

The key is openness with our own intentions.  As long as we silently engage in the acts of pleasing or helping others at our own expense, sabotage will usually creep in.  Learning to say “no” is the cure for this ailment, and it can even be done diplomatically and effectively.

But what about the sabotage we experience that seemingly comes out of nowhere?  The “Why did I do THAT”  syndrome…??  There are many times when self-sabotage is not obvious until the damage is done.  In these cases, a deeper understaning of motivation is required.  

Hidden decisions are the basis for our default action settings.  They come as a result of decisions made during key moments in our lives – when we were prompted or “nudged” to choose one response to events over another.  Emotion usually plays a big part, and these actions are often tied in with cultural norms and behaviors.  

For example, a man who was emotionally abused as a child may have made the decision to hate those in authority and fight them at every turn.  Another who experienced the same thing may have decided that action is futile and he needs to give up all hope of happiness or success. While abuse may seem like the exception, it is unfortunatly not.  All of us – at one time or another – have experienced a frustration to our perceptions about how the world should be . . . and how it actually is.  

Abuse does not mean physical or emotional beatings.  If could also pertain to the withholding of something cherished or desired.  When in high school, to use a personal example, I really wanted to accompany some classmates to Costa Rica for the summer, but my parents could not afford to send me.  The decisions I made about money – or the lack therof – formed my expectations as an adult that money and exotic experiences were hard to come by.  While I eventually (and fortunately) made a NEW decision later in life, many don’t.  They continue operating on the old default settings without knowing it could be different.       

Self-sabotage is present in our everyday thoughts, beliefs and personal paradigms.  We see the world through colored glasses and operate as if it is that way for everyone.  Take off the glasses.  See the world as it really IS, knowing full well that new decisions about the world can be made any time.  It will take some courage to look at our own “stuff” – and the “stuff” given us by our ancestors and culture – but the end result is dynamic energy, happiness, abundance and love.  

Is it worth it?  I vote yes.  

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Mar
06

Welcome to the Logical Soul Blog!

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I’ll be posting some insights several times a week on subjects like How to Shift Your Paradigm Quickly, How to ELIMINATE SELF-SABOTAGE, how to create a harmonious relationship with your mate, and how to get access to your personal hidden decisions.  Stay tuned!

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