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[EZINE] One Secret about Men Women don’t know…

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Dr. Michael Craig,   Vol. 5, #27 – July 11, 2017

Hi – Here’ more men-women stuff…

(Sorry I didn’t follow up on this last week, but the holiday needed a comment or two…)

Soma and I were having a discussion about our upcoming book yesterday, and I casually mentioned that I and most other men feel the need to just stop talking after a certain time – usually around 6-8 pm.  

Apparently she did not know that we guys run our of things to say after we’ve used up our “word quota”. . .   

Its true.  Say a man’s WQ is 16,000 words a day.  Once we hit that number, say goodbye to any further conversation!  Most guys need “Cave Time,” usually after dinner . . . and lots of women don’t understand this.  

Because he doesn’t talk, women assume he’s just stupid – at least for the time being – or doesn’t love her.  And a women feeling not loved is a powder keg leading to major discord.   

The man, however, is just is sitting in his cave, feeling all comfy. If a woman comes at him (because she doesn’t feel loved), he simply tags her as “crazy,” then tunes her out as best he can.   

Now, obviously, this WQ thing will vary from man to man, but the general rule applies.  If a man engages in daytime work that doesn’t require a lot of conversation, he’s free to use more words at night.  His wife or girlfriend, then, would assume he is just like her all the time . . . and forget to back off during the times he uses up his WQ.

Men’s brains apparently are wired to process information in a sequential manner, i.e., one thought at a time.  Women, however, are more wired for multi-processing and can say and do multiple things at a time (this comes in handy for raising kids!)  

So Men  – you’re not really stupid.

And Women –  you don’t have to feel crazy.

Life is that way sometimes.

More fun facts next week,

Michael
www.logicalsoul.com

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[EZINE] This Men-Women Thing . . .

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Dr. Michael Craig,   Vol. 5, #25 – June 27, 2017

My wife Soma and I are working on a book, this one entitled Men Are Stupid, Women Are Crazy… its a working title, but that pretty much covers the theme.   

We committed to spending one hour a day brainstorming and recording the session.  Today it started.  

The session was hard – not because of the actual work involved – but because we communicate so differently.  She talked on and on about addressing women who totally ‘get’ her.  Then she added that women have their own understanding, and it only takes a few words between them to get things that men will never understand.  

That’s just crazy talk.  But she’s right.

I will never understand.  I also believe most other men won’t either . . . that is until we break the “code” that keeps the sexes apart and start accepting the other as they are, instead of projecting out own expectations onto them.  

Hey men:  you and I  will never understand a woman’s “emotional logic” anymore than we can fly by flapping our arms.   While we complain that women are never ready for our intimate advances (they “need too much foreplay”), they complain we are too slow when it comes to EMOTIONAL readiness, i.e., we men need too much “emotional foreplay”!  

Are men stupid?  Only if we deny this problem exists.  

Soma and I have been through all of this in our 24 years of being together.  And it never gets boring to hear that all couples – young or old – have the same barriers to success in love.  Unlike many other couples, however, we have been able to (mostly) work though our difficulties by coming up with a viable communication tool – Logical Soul® – that helps us clear up stuff that would normally tear us apart.   

By sharing our experiences and our tools, we are better able than most to help couples not only adjust to each other, but to become closer and closer as time goes on.  Soma, in fact because of this work, is my best friend, and has been since we’ve been together.  

You and yours can have this too.   

More next week,

Michael

 

Michael

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[EZINE] Caution: This Will Eat You Up – Part 2

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Dr. Michael Craig,   Vol. 5, #22 – June 6, 2017

The Blob Got Us…

Last week, I was unable to send out the Ezine to over 95% of my list due to a database problem on my server.  So, to those of you who missed the exciting Part 1 of this series, I’ve created a link where you can still read it…

—–> Click Here To See Last Weeks Ezine Article <—–

In the previous Ezine I discussed media as “The Blob” and how it can tie up your time, rot your brain and create an addiction that is only now beginning to be recognized.   

The main symptom of media addiction is “brain warp.” The language centers of the brain get turned upside down.  while some might consider this an evolutionary advantage (particularly in Millennium group culture), many start losing the ability to make verbal distinctions and utilize critical thinking.

Memes

A meme is more than just a cute picture saying on Instagram.   In his book Virus of the Mind (Integral Press, Seattle, 1996), author Richard Brodie defines the meme as a “mind virus” and gives extensive examples of how these viruses only benefit themselves – not human beings.  Memes can warp your thinking to no one’s advantage save the meme’s.

We currently live in a world of toxic – and dangerous – memes.  By simply even giving your opinion in a public gathering, you run the immediate risk of being labeled either a rightist homophobic, Islamophobic fascist climate-change-denying deplorable, or a leftist commie, tree-hugging, thumb-sucking, femi-nazi liberal. 

All such labels are memes.  And all are destructive. 

The Remedy 

The first step to wiping out dangerous memes is to first recognize them for what they are – simple thought patterns knitted together and anchored to some deep emotional need or attachment.  Once you recognize your need to “march” or “protest” as an infection of your brain, it will be much easier to let it go.  

Letting go of memes does NOT mean letting go of who you are.  Only you can make that link, since the meme is only a phantom program that traps your deepest emotions into thinking THIS THING will destroy (or save) the world!

If you are protesting Trump, for example, because he’s “destroying the planet,” take a moment to look at what actually drives you.  Love for the planet?  Perhaps.  A fear of his “insanity”?  Maybe.  A need to feel significant?  More likely. 

The causes of memes are always internal in nature, not external events. 

We all want to feel significant, make a difference and save the whales, children, and planet.  We also want to save the country, drive away invaders and be left alone.  Whatever drives you, look at what actions are most effective in achieving this drive, does it involve a Win-Win solution (as opposed to zero-sum)  AND what is most important to you:  you spouse and family – or your perceived “mission.” 

My mission back in the mid 1990’s was emotionally driven to expose the IRS and bring government into alignment with the Constitution.  My whole being was wrapped up into seeing “justice” being done.  That, and being left alone.

It didn’t work.  The IRS is still going strong, government is still corrupt, I was never left alone, and nothing I did made any difference . . . except that I went broke during that period and put a big strain on my marriage. 

Fortunately, I woke up, let go of the fear, and started playing the “good citizen game” just for kicks.  This, in turn, allowed me to start focusing on my REAL mission, i.e., wiping out all virulent memes in the world with Logical Soul® through books, courses, and training events.

While even this latest mission also seems impossible, I can still be a voice crying in the wilderness to “Let It Go”  and be happy!  All I can do is chip away – and enjoy the chipping.  And you can help: start with yourself.

To being free and happy,

Michael

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[EZINE] How To Read Anyone Like A Book

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Dr. Michael Craig,   Vol. 5, #20 – May 23, 2017

The Open Secret

Want to know how to read someone like a book?  Watch.  Ask questions.  And really listen. 

That’s right.  It’s an open secret that – to read someone correctly – you only have to watch and listen.  Then they will reveal things they never told anyone . . . even themselves!  I discovered this after interviewing hundreds of guests on my radio program, as well as after doing sessions with thousands of people.  

But listening – really listening – is a natural talent that has been trained right out of us. 

I learned this the hard way as a child and adolescent growing up in Savannah, Georgia.  I remember being a part of a family gathering where they were telling stories from the wartime and I noticed that Aunt Floozie (not her real name) was very fidgety and nervous. So, naturally, I spoke up in my innocence and said Aunt Floozie was really afraid of that topic. 

First, a look of shock came over everyone, Aunt Floozy denied she was afraid of anything, and I was quietly ushered out of the room to “go play with the other kids!” 

I never forgot how I disrupted the room, however.  I didn’t mean to.  Didn’t want to.  I was only doing what I’d been told, i.e., “Always tell the truth.” Then I was confused when I didn’t get praise for doing what I was told.  

It was after events like this that I finally came to realize that adults didn’t really mean what they said when it came to “the truth.”  They only wanted the truth when it pertained to something I had done wrong.  That’s it.  All the “adult conversations” apparently were off limits to this requirement. 

As I grew into my late teens,  I became increasingly schizophrenic in trying to decide when the truth actually applied to who, what, when, or how much?  I discovered this southern “politeness” thing meant that most subjects were off limits to discussion, and that I was expected to be polite, rather than truthful, i.e., “Go along to get along…”

My mother’s favorite line came from Gone With The Wind, when Scarlett O’Hara proclaimed “I’ll think about that tomorrow!”

But somehow “tomorrow” never came.

 

 

I Got Cured

After decades of soul searching, meditation, group therapies, self-discovery workshops and “working on myself,”  I finally am at the place where I can see what that silly southern facade was all about, i.e., a bunch of dysfunctional people putting on a brave face simply because they knew of no other way to be!

Now my wife and I are committed to speaking the truth to each other and to others.  I also found that, by telling the truth, I didn’t have to remember much (it turns out that lies have a way of coming out unless you tell more lies…)

I still, however, often rely on my inherited southern diplomacy to soften the blow when its a subject of deep importance to the listener.    I can do this because I learned about “divine listening”…

—–> See the Divine Listening Post and Video <—–

You (or your Soul) already know the truth.  But do you have the courage to actually look for it?  Hear it?  Then acknowledge or speak it?  If you can do this – without anger, hate or revenge in your heart – congratulations.  You will have a happier life. 

—-> Click Here to see my Divine Listening Post & Video <—–

To your success,

Michael

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[EZINE] Great News for Coaches and Consultants

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Dr. Michael Craig,   Vol. 5, #14 – April 11, 2017

Calling All Coaches…

For the past several years, it has been my goal to bring a steady stream of practical solutions to coaches and consultants.  Most of these had to do with marketing tips that allow coaches to focus on what they do best – coaching – and not having to spend time marketing and selling their services.

On Saturday, I spoke with a very special person about this.  His name is Joshua Rozario, he lives and works in San Jose, California, and has developed some pretty sophisticated ways to provide low-cost marketing and networking for coaching/consulting professionals.

The interesting thing about Josh is that he comes from a marketing and tech background, and found that the coaching field is wife open when it comes to marketing.  

“There are very few reasonably-priced choices where a coach can market his or her services” he explained to me.  “I just found out that, with little effort on my part, I can make a huge difference in allowing a coach to focus on what he or she does best – coaching.” 

Josh has recently set up a website that offers an amazing assortment of marketing tools for the non-marketing professional.  so if you are stuck trying to figure out how to attract and keep clients, he can help you do this . . . and for a price that every coach can afford without taking out a loan!

But don’t go to his website and sign up just yet.  I’m negotiating a discount for all my subscribers so you’ll soon be able to get in at a fraction of the cost.   Stay tuned – I’ll try to get this done by next week if possible…

To your success,

– Michael

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[EZINE] Something You Need To Do Tonight…

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Dr. Michael Craig,   Vol. 5, #13 – April 4, 2017

What Successful Couples Do…

Take a break . . . 

Together. 

I don’t know many couples who simply live a life of leisure and have little to do except fun stuff.  Most of us work, and work hard. 

What Soma and I try to do now (since she reminds me I’m pretty bad at this actually), is to take time out together to go to a nice restaurant, take in a movie … at an actual theater… or simply sit across each other on the couch to give each other a foot massage.

– Michael

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[EZINE] 10-Minute Couples Therapy, Part 2

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Dr. Michael Craig,   Vol. 5, #12 – March 28, 2017

A Brief Apology…

I promised Part 2 for last week, and was unable to send out the E-zine.  For this, I am sorry.  Over the past 3 weeks I’ve been back and forth to either in the hospital or Emergency Room for an acute prostate infection that has left me immobilized and popping prescription medicines to treat pain and infection.

Today, however, I can report that the pain is mostly gone, and I should be back to normal within 1-2 weeks.   So thank you for your patience during this interval.  You and all my subscribers are valuable to me, and deserve the best I can give.   

The Real Essence of Couples Therapy

In any relationship, whether or not you have a pre-nuptial agreement in place, there are still expectations from the other person, but these are largely unspoken, much less written down.  Practical matters, like how many kids to have, who contributes to the monthly bills, and own/rent living decisions all have a logical place in every relationship.

Its the UNSPOKEN expectations, however, that usually undo a relationship, even before it gets established.  Your ‘subconscious self’ – or ‘inner child’ – wants and needs things that cannot often be translated into language. 

These expectations must, therefore, go unfulfilled unless the couple is able to dig deep and discover what these needs and expectations actually are.  This has been the traditional role of couples therapy – to ‘referee’ the clash of unmet expectations.

You can also do this yourself, if both parties are willing.  The REAL secret to happiness in relationships is to first know yourself. Then and only then can you share the deep needs  or feelings you have with each other.  Without the ability to do this – especially a problem for men – then the spouse or partner is left only with guesses and doubts . . . dangerous for any long-term relationship. 

As I mentioned in my last installment, Soma and I are happy and loving the vast majority of the time for one simple reason:  gratitude.   Whenever I look at her, I always have the feeling inside that “I’m the lucky one – I got the better deal!!”  For her part, Soma tells me she feels the same way (but I still know I got the better deal).  

We both know we have faults and idiosyncrasies, but our ability to look at and acknowledge these hidden things make all the difference.  Why?  Because each of us have got the better deal! 

Again, its all about gratitude . . . and using the Logical Soul® as much as possible. 

The Ten Minute Solution, Part 2

Try this with your partner:  Each of you write down all the ways you feel lucky to be with the other.  Then spend 10 minutes reading this list to your partner. 

You can do this once or twice a week for maximum benefit.  The main thing is to communicate – both to yourself as well as to your partner – the fact that you actually NEED them in your life for happiness to be there. 

Sure, there will be complaints come up as well.  Save these for later.  The first step, though, is to establish those things that brought you together in the first place. 

Discover your happiness FIRST.  Then all possibilities will flow from this.

Thanks for remaining a subscriber,

– Michael

[EZINE] Weird Australian Math…?

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Dr. Michael Craig

Vol. 4, #15 – April 11, 2016

Arithmetic Down Under…

Hey [newsfield name=”name”]…

I have a very smart friend in Australia named David Cummings.  He’s an engineer, a business marketing genius . . .  and has a very unique way of seeing things using some very weird math…

One day we were sitting around chewing the the Vegemite with some shrimps on the Bar-Bee (just kidding – I’ve not yet been to Australia.  Want to.  Heard its lovely.  But I digress…)

Anyway, we Skype quite often.  One day on Skype he told me that – by giving away more stuff – I could actually attract more coaching clients.  He said he’s been marketing like this for years, and the results were amazing.

At first glance, I saw nothing weird about this.  I, too, recommend giving away free coaching sessions in my book The Six Figure Coach. David, however, added a real twist to this wild and woolly giveaway idea… and posted a great article to share with my followers:

—->  Here is David’s Article on the Free Giveaway Idea <—–

The thing that puzzled me was this:  Why was he recommending giving away THREE things? . . . In addition to the Free Sessions?  This was strange math to me, i.e., 1 minus 1 minus 1 is NOT supposed to equal THREE!

But I guess it does in Australia, sort of . . . like how the water circles counter-clockwise going down the drain?  😉

—-> Find out how David does this here <—–

So check it out.  All I can tell you is that David’s formula involves giving away unique information products along with your free coaching that are almost guaranteed to attract – and keep – more paying clients!

—–> Click Here To Check It Out <—–

To your success,

Michael

[EZINE] Do You Know Your Niche or Specialty?

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Dr. Michael Craig

Vol. 4, #9 – Feb. 29, 2016

 

Happy Leap Year Day [newsfield name=”name”] – This week I want to ask you about your “niche” or coaching specialty.  Do you really know what it is?

Know Your Niche

I never gave much thought about my “niche” before I realized that NOT knowing this bit of information has probably cost me tens of thousands of dollars! 

Then – and only then – did I become interested.

Don’t be like I was.  Learn all you can about your coaching niche, i.e., your specialty.  Knowing your niche is the only way I know to directly affect your ability to attract paying clients,  and therefore your bottom line!  Otherwise, you will only end up coaching your dog on how to roll over (and chances are, Fido doesn’t pay so well!)…

—-> Learn about how to recognize your NICHE here <—–

3 Questions

There are essentially 3 Questions you need to ask yourself in order to discover your true niche.  These, by the way, are the SAME questions your prospective clients are quietly asking – and expecting you to answer BEFORE they will commit to any kind of coaching!

—-> Learn the 3 Questions Here <—–

That’s It!

I wrote a LOT on Coaching Niches – and also did a podcast a few years ago – so I won’t repeat all that here.  I will, however ask you to check out my latest article . . .

—–> Do You Know Your Coaching Niche? <—–

To your continued success,

– Michael

[EZINE] Are you a Life Coach? Or a Therapist…?

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Dr. Michael Craig

Vol. 4, #8 – Feb. 22, 2016

 

OK [newsfield name=”name”] – This week I want to ask you something important:  Are you a life coach?  Or a therapist??

Life Coaching Myths

If you are a therapist or psychologist,  you already know the answer to this question.  Therapy (and counseling, for some) is unlike life coaching in that it involves dealing with the PAST, i.e., emotional traumas or experiences.

Any attempt to deal with parents, siblings, teachers;  war-time traumas that created PTSS, or even past-lives . . . is always about the past.  While the EFFECTS may be found in the present and future, the past is the workplace.

Practitioners and therapists are usually licensed and board-certified, and have to adhere to strict standards or protocols when dealing with patients or clients.  Life coaching – on the other hand – usually revolves around what exists in the PRESENT or FUTURE without much attention being put on digging up the past.

The MYTH that usually  surrounds this profession is that “life coaching” is somehow akin to being a therapist . . . but without a license.  Nothing could be further from the truth.

A real life coach will help you assess your current assets, skills, talents and other resources, then help you focus these resources towards a particular goal or dream.  Life coaches can either be certified or not certified, but they are always focused on what is possible, rather than healing what has passed.

There are 5 myths, actually,  that surround the art and practice of life coaching.

—-> Learn the Other 4 Myths about Life Coaching Here <—–

Finding Your Coaching Niche

To be successful as a Life Coach, you have to find and develop your NICHE, or specific field of coaching.  Otherwise, you run the risk of becoming invisible because you don’t address the SPECIFIC NEEDS of your ideal client.

Are you a weight loss coach?  Great – this is a niche, but also a very broad one.  Be as specific as you can.  Try “Niching” your field down a bit . . . say by becoming “The #1 Weight Loss Coach for Asian Women Over 50,” or something similar.

The FIRST thing you need to understand about any niche you choose, however, is the public’s perception of life coaches, and how you can meet and overcome these MYTHS and objections before promoting yourself in a big way . . .

—–> Here are the 5 Myths about Life Coaching <—–

Another factor any life coach should consider, as part of any effort towards success,  is CERTIFICATION.  While no one in the USA is required to be certified to start a practice, a life coaching certificate gives you more authority and “gravitas” when addressing prospective clients.  As a “certified life coach,” you automatically gain more respect, like you would if you were a published author or other known expert.

More on this later . . . Meanwhile,

To your continued success,

– Michael